In the era of #metoo, it is more important that ever that we teach our kids ways in which they can speak up and stand up against bullies and harassment in all shape and forms.
if your child is unprepared and unaware of what bullying can look like, he or she might experience it and not be able to express whats happening. It doesn’t serve any child to be defenseless when it comes to bullying, and the best way to empower them is to prepare your child in advance. Have a conversation with your child on how to deal with bullying what the signs to look out for are before it happens.
When most people think of self-defense, they think of hitting back. the essence of self-defense has nothing to do using violence or striking someone. It’s about being aware of your surroundings, listening to your gut, knowing when to leave before a an issue gets out of hand and learning how to use a (confident) your voice and how to stand up for yourself. Here are five strategies children can use to defend themselves against bullies.
Trust your instinct.
Teach your kids to be aware of their surroundings. If something doesn’t feel right it’s important to be more vigilant. It is crucial that we teach our kids to listen to the inner voice and pay attention. Being aware of what’s going on around them will help them assess a situation based on the information their surroundings is giving them. Trusting their instincts will not only will help protect your child from bullying but it is also an important life skill. The earlier they can learn to be aware of it the easier it will be to trust their instincts.
A great way in preventing bullying is to build self-esteem in your child which will give them a boost in confidence. Having good posture, making eye contact and verbal assertiveness by speaking up when necessary. By contrast, if a child slouch and keep their eyes averted, it can make them appear to be an easy target. Work with your children on these techniques. And awaken the power that lies within so they don’t feel helpless.
Flight over Fight
Too often children have hard time realizing when asituation is heading in the wrong direction and when to walk away. Our job as a parents is to teach them that walking away from a bad situation is not being weak or cowardly. On the contrary, it takes courage to walk away from a situation that is escalating.
Using self-defense techniques
Although you shouldn’t encourage your child to fight, there are certain self-defense techniques they can use to protect themselves when attacked. For instance, there are techniques for blocking a punch that is thrown at them. There are also techniques for removing a bully’s fingers from their wrists as well as techniques on how to get free when being restrained. And there are techniques on how they can defend themselves from a group attack. All these strategies can be learned in a self-defense class.
Remember, when teaching your kids about self-defense skills against bullies, encourage them to diffuse the situation by using a strong voice or walking away. Also, Make sure your kids know that it is acceptable and encouraged to make a lot of noise if someone is threatening them or hurting them.
Taking a Self-defense class.
One great thing you can do is to enrol your child in a self-defense class. There are many options out there for kids of all ages, find one that suits your child and where they can have fun. Your child will not only learn how to defend themselves, but also build their confidence and teach them discipline. Most times, diffusing a verbal bullying involves knowing how to respond verbal assertiveness with confidence before it can ever evolve to physical bullying. These are the steps we can all take as parents to teach our kids how to stand up for themselves.
After birth, many mothers experience roller coaster rides of emotions. When the hormones go crazy again, it’s important to keep calm. It takes time for the hormones to settle again. Even well-intentioned pep-talk can cross over. Respond to outbreaks calmly and understanding & give your wife some time for herself.
2. Daddy does it differently!
Fathers treat their children differently than mothers. And that’s just as well! Babies love and need that difference. Listen to your heart and stomach and combine this natural intuition with helpful tips. How to find your own way. Treat yourself to pure daddy days. Only you and your baby. This makes the bond even stronger and you get to know your baby from a completely new side!
3. VIP diaper session
Just sneak off to work in the morning? That would be too bad! Take your child on the arm and enjoy the time together. Wrap up your baby, chat with him a bit and then put him to bed to mom. So your partner can wake up gently and you can spend valuable time with your baby.
4. The work has to stay outside
It may be difficult after a hard day at work to take on all the fatherly duties. Try to keep the stress in the office and turn it off on the way home. Walk a short distance and buy dinner on the way so you do not have to cook at home. So you have more time than family.
5. Men’s evenings with your baby
Do you miss your male friendships? In order not to completely disappear from the scene, grab your baby and walk to a friend. A soothing coffee or sports treacle can not hurt men too. Absolutely think of the vial and the diapers. Fill the milk powder already in the bottle and take the warm water in the Thermo bottle. If the baby is breast-fed, you can easily transport a puff with breast milk in an insulated bag. So it works on the way with the food.
6. Theme changes are good
After the birth, everything revolves around the new family member. This is a good thing. Nevertheless, make sure that even non-baby talks take place. Your partner is not only the mother of your child, but also a woman. Invite friends without children, then automatically other topics of conversation arise.
Intermittent fasting has become one of the most controversial concepts of discussion for anyone looking to shed weight. The idea has grown significantly over the past several years.
Everyone from the biggest celebrities, to George St-Pierre, a three-time former UFC Welterweight Champion practice intermittent fasting. To someone who is new to intermittent fasting, however, there may be a lot of information to take in, so it’s important to do ample research.
If you are intrigued by intermittent fasting and want to how it works, you first need to satisfy the question of what intermittent fasting can do for you. What can you get out of it? And what can you expect?
I personally practice intermittent fasting 2-3 times a week. Here are four benefits of intermittent fasting that I have discovered .
1) Weight loss
One great benefit of intermittent fasting, is the significant weight lost without a calorie-restricted diet. Furthermore, it helps keep the weight off in the long term. Celebrities and fitness experts harp on intermittent fasting’s amazing transformational effects. From Wolverine himself, Mr. Hugh Jackman, to UFC legend Georges St-Pierre, different people from all over the world have detailed how intermittent fasting has changed their lives.
By adhering to a time-restricted eating schedule, intermittent fasting assists practitioners eat less calories without it feeling like you’re on a restrictive diet.
2) Reduces the risk of developing diabetes
As more and more people in the world are affected by diabetes, one of the best ways to combat this life threatening conditioning is through exercise and a healthy balanced diet.
Intermittent fasting is a great tool to help you fight against diabetes and reverse its effects overall. Recent studies have suggested intermittent fasting may also be able to stop diabetes in its tracks. Studies revealed that intermittent fasting harbors the production of new pancreatic cells which replace old dysfunctional ones, helps reduce insulin resistance which in turn keeps blood sugar levels under control.
3) Strong and healthy brain
Improved healthy brain function is one of the greatest benefits of intermittent fasting, helping to prevent and manage neurodegenerative diseases like Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s. The act of resisting the temptation to eat during a fasting window is a mental challenge that causes the human brain to take preventative measures against various diseases.
In fact, most practitioners of intermittent fasting have raved about the challenge that it presents. After some time, the body makes personal adjustments to ones eating schedule, hence the constant hunger subsides which is why some switch things up and work with various methods of intermittent fasting.
4) The body burns fat
Our bodies have been trained to use sugar and carbohydrates as the primary source for energy. The unused calories from sugar and carbohydrates left in the system, gets stored as fat.
Intermittent fasting trains our bodies to use fat as energy and not sugar, as humans were designed to do in the early days of man. The human body was made to withstand long periods of fasting which leads the body expending energy from stored fat.
The fasting window buys our bodies time to deplete our glycogen stores, causing us to burn fat instead of sugar for energy. This state the body enters is known as Ketosis, or more popularly coined today as Keto. Ketones boost energy levels and decrease brain fog.
As a new dad, you’re worried about so many things it’s hard to even keep track. You haven’t changed a diaper before, or you need to get the nursery done, or you aren’t sure what stuff you need. Don’t forget that even with all that craziness going on, there’s a little baby at the heart of it all. Someone who is trusting you completely to take care of him or her, who is going to love you so much and you’ll love them back so much it’ll blow your mind.
1. Buying too much stuff If it’s made of plastic or includes an iPhone dock, it’s probably a waste of money.
2. Comparing your child to other people’s children All children are monsters sometimes and angels at other times. Your pals’ kids will be angels when your child is kicking off, and viceversa
3. Staying up too late Babies know when you’ve done this and deliberately wake up extra early the next morning.
4. Listening to bad advice Lots of people will offer you parenting tips. Most of those tips will be wrong, including – make that especially – the ones from your own parents. It’s a miracle you made it this far.
5. Forgetting to check your clothes for sick, or worse You’re travelling. It’s a warm day. You can’t turn back. Yes, that smell is exactly what you think it is.
6. Underestimating babies’ acceleration Babies move fast and have no sense of danger. You will learn this the hard way.
7. Expecting to become a better person now you’re a parent Turns out your parents were frightened, winging it and bullshitting their way through everything too. We’re not sure if that’s reassuring or terrifying.
8. Forgetting to apply the brakes on the pram You’ll only make this mistake once, but your partner will remind you of it for, ooh, the next twenty years.
9. Taking the crying personally To baby, you’re a fuzzy shape that can fix things. Crying means ‘something’s wrong’, not ‘I hate you’.
10. Expecting to return to normality You can’t go back to your old life, but once you’re through the early days you won’t want to.
11.Not asking for help if you need it People don’t want to interfere, so if you pretend everything’s OK when it isn’t then they won’t force help on you. If you need a hand, ask friends or family. They’ll usually come running.
12. Taking criticism badly New dads tend to hear ‘hey, you’ve put the babygro on backwards’ as “I hate you, you’re a terrible father.’ Calm down!
13. Not seeing the woods for the trees Even if it’s really tough right now, it will get better. Better than better. Amazing. Promise.
14. Leaving a nappy on too long When you hear, feel or smell that nappy filling up, a timebomb starts ticking. Procrastination can and usually does have terrible consequences.
15. Looking for wisdom on the internet Good luck with that.
I wanted to touch on something that I always struggle with when it comes to parenting and that I am now more mindful of. Our beloved phones and the impact it is having on the little ones around us. What are we teaching them through our interaction with our phones? and the amount of time we spend starring into it. Here are some of my thoughts and I hope it can be useful to any parent to find a balance and live a more mindful life.
Our children are closely attuned to our attention. They depend on that attention for their social and emotional development. If someone would film us, you would probably see it non stop – parents standing, necks bent, thumbs frantically tapping away at their iPhones or Samsungs. The attention we give our phones has a huge impact on our health & social and family relationships.
Look at me daddy
Baby’s vision development is very important and even affects their other senses. They light up when you make eye contact and talk directly to them. They are taking in the rhythm and sounds of our voices.
Sometimes I find my kids fighting for my attention & they loose against my Smartphone. Positive attention is when we respond to our kids with warmth and interest. It helps them, build a strong value system and positive self-esteem + they feel secure and valued.
Believing in themselves
When kids know that their parents think they have what it takes to handle life’s problems, they develop confidence in their ability to take on life’s challenges. Put your phone down and talk to them seriously about what they are doing, their skills will grow and their self-confidence will raise.
They want your attention
Responding with enthusiasm to their attempts to master new things will ensure, that the kids keep trying. The “look at me’s” you hear is actually asking for your approval and encouragement. When you do look, take interest, the kids feel it. They try again. They push themselves to the next level!
They miss you
The kids will miss out on having a parent on their side! We all should have the desire to be better parents. The discipline to be there for our kids. Hold ourself accountable for the moments we are not there for them. Be Responsible at all times & Communicate with them. They will thank you in the future – Sometimes you have to invest to get something back – Whats better to invest, then into your own children!?!
Here are some rules We have implemented in our house:
No phone use for the first hour after coming home
No phone use in the evening before kids bedtime
No phone use during meals
No phone use during a family movie (and try not to fall asleep while watching 🙂
As the summer nears it end, I can’t help but reflect on this summer and all the nice times I’ve had in Stockholm. I can honestly say I’ve had one of the best summer’s ever. I enjoy the simple things in life nowadays, the other day I took my kids out for some ice cream in old town (Gamla Stan) and walked around just being in the moment. Life with kids can be hectic and its nice to take time out to just be present, we often get lost in the high speed of life chasing it all, trying to be it all. Exhausting ourselves, not having enough energy left to enjoy our kids endless love and desire for our attention. Parenting is the hardest job you will ever do, and being more present is where is at😊 . 🎩 off to all the parents
The best exercises to target the triceps with just your bodyweight. These exercises will purely isolate the triceps when you do them right!
1.Parallel Dips – In my opinion the best triceps builder, dips are a effective muscle builder. Grasp the bars with a neutral grip. Keep your body in an upright position and with your arms by your sides, lower your body until you reach at least a 90 degree angle at your elbows. While you press back up, keep your arms by your sides and maintain that upright body posture. I usually do 4 or 5 sets of 10 to 15 reps. As a beginner i would recommend you 3 sets of 5 reps.
2.Bench Dips – The bench dip is a good start for those not accustomed to a full-fledged parallel bar dip. Grab the end of a bench with both hands behind you with a shoulder-width grip and your legs straight with your heels on the floor. I usually do 4 or 5 sets of 20 to 25 reps. As a beginner i would recommend you 3 sets of 10 reps.
3.Close Grip Push up – The close grip push up is a variation of the push up that focuses on hitting the triceps. Begin in plank position with the arms and body straight, shoulders over the wrists. Keep the core engaged. Bend the elbows behind you and lower your chest to the floor. Keep your upper arms tight to your body so your elbows are against your ribs on both sides. Straighten the arms, coming back to plank position. I usually do 20-30-40-30-20 reps. As a beginner i would recommend you 5-10-5 reps.
Jag skrev ner en lista på saker som jag tycker är nödvändiga att ha som en nybliven pappa. Jag hoppas att det hjälper dig som som just blivit en fförälder eller väntar barn. Here’s a list I wrote on essential baby items I couldn’t live without as a father of three. I hope they are useful in navigating this new exciting life that you will embark on.
1.Bilstol En viktig pryl för din bebis som måste vara ordentligt fastsatt i en bilstol. Sätet måste vara anpassat för ditt barn och måste fungera i din bil. Inte alla bilstolar håller samma kvalité, du kanske vill överväga en som har en bas som finns kvar i bilen med ett avtagbart säte för barnet som du enkelt kan bära runt. Hitta en som funkar för din familj. 1.Car Seat This is an essential item for your baby. Anytime you are in a car, the baby needs to be securely fastened in a car seat. The seat must be appropriately sized for your baby and must work in your car. Not all car seats are created equal. You may want to consider a seat that has a base that is left in the car with a detachable seat for the baby that you can easily carry around. But no baby can safely be without a car seat if you plan to move about in a car. Find one that suits you and your family.
2.Digital\Video kamera: Nästan varje far och många mammor som jag känner vill ha en bra digitalkamera för att spela in de viktiga ögonblicken i deras barns utveckling, eller bara för att skicka bilder av det sötaste barnen någonsin. Att ha en bra digitalkamera med mycket lagringsutrymme eller plats för ett högkapacitets minneskort är en bra investering. 2.Digital/Video Camera: Just about every father and many mothers I know wants a good digital camera to record those vital moments in their baby’s development, or just to post pictures of the cutest baby ever. Having a good digital camera with a lot of storage space or room for a high capacity memory card is a great investment.
3.Skötväska: En blöj väska/ skötväska gör att man enklare får ordning på allt bebisen behöver när man är ute. Du kommer att bära på den en hel del. Därför valde jag en enkel bekväm men som inte “clashar” med min stil för mycket. Men som också har utrymme för mina grejer, en bok eller en bärbar data. 3. Diaper Bag: A good quality diaper bag with all the important contents for the baby is an absolutely essential part of the baby’s kamera stuff. It will be the one item you will be seen carrying😊 therefore I chose a simple comfortable one that I can also fit my books and a laptop in.
4.Burp cloth – bib: En annan stor överraskning som en ny pappa var hur mycket vår baby spydde upp. Jag fick bytta t-shirt konstant. En hel del leverans av burpduk kommer behövas under dom första månaderna, som du enkelt hittar hos flesta babyförsäljning affärer. Ingen idea att klä upp sig utan en till hands, det lovar jag 😉 4.Burp Cloths: Another big surprise I had as a new father was how much our baby spit up. A ready supply of burp cloth is important for dads and babies which you can purchase in most baby supply stores. Don’t even bother getting dressed up, without one at hand.
5.Barnvagn: Det är överväldigande som en nybliven pappa och det är lätt att känna sig fast hemma med den nya bebisen. Det kommer inte som någon överraskning att din rörlighet begränsas. En barnvagn med kvalitet, och med justerande handtag så du slipper böja över hela tiden, är ju ett måste. Särskilt om du är lång. Det var inte enkelt för mig att hitta en anpassad för längre människor, men den jag har får duga. 5.Stroller: It is overwhelming experince to become father for the first time and its easy for a new dad to feel trapped at home with the new bor. It comes as no surprise that your mobility is effected . A good quality stroller, with handles long enough that you can walk without bending over all the time, is an important item. Particularly if you are on the tall side of the spectrum. And getting one that will serve you and your baby as she or he grows makes the relatively large investment a little easier to digest.
6.Rash-creme – Aprikosolja: Som tre barns pappa så jag har jag säkerligen prövat många hudutslag krämer, salvor m.m. Många av dem var inte helt dåliga och gav en viss effekt mot utslaget och en aning förbättring. Men nästan alla dem jag använde innehöll många ingredienser som irriterar huden och som inte är bra på lång sikt. Jag fick av min kusin Desse Apricotolja för några år sedan och det har varit en game-changer sedan dess. Denna produkt är inte bara bra mot irriterad och rodnad utan alla typer av skärningar. Det är en helande salva som kan användas för att hydrera huden, motverka torra läppar. Varje gång jag har använt, så har det alltid gett omedelbar resultat och förbättring. Och det bästa av allt är att det är framkallat på aprikosolja och det är helt naturligt.
6.Rash cream – Apricot oil:As a father of three children, it’s safe to say I have tried many rash lotion/creams/ balm. Many of them were not bad as far as soothing the rash and improving it. But almost all of the ones I used where made with a lot of ingredients that are not safe or good in the long run. I was given by my cousing Desse Apricot oil a couple of years ago and it has been a game changers ever since. This product is not only great for diaper rash but all types of cuts. It is a healing balm that can be used to hydrate the skin, cracked lips. Every time I have used when one of my kids had a rash, it gave instant results of improvement. And the best of all it’s made of apricot oil and its all natural.
Who hasn´t heard about pull ups? It’s one of my top exercises, because it works your entire upper body. A lot of people find it a very difficult exercise and therefor skip it altogether. Too bad, because pull ups have so many benefits. Let’s take a look at the different ways to do pull ups + check out my own secret pull up routine at the end.
When it comes to body-weight exercises, they don’t come much tougher than the wide-grip pullup. Even if you’re a competent chin-up master, you’ll find the wide-grip much more taxing. This can be a good thing, though, as switching to a wider hand spacing recruits different muscles and gives your training new purpose.
Using a pronated grip, grasp the pull bar with a wider than shoulder width grip.
Take a deep breath, squeeze your glutes and brace your abs. Depress the shoulder blades and then drive the elbows straight down to the floor while activating the lats.
Pull your chin towards the bar until the lats are fully contracted, then slowly lower yourself back to the start position and repeat for the assigned number of repetitions.
A MUST DO in the U.S. Army! This exercise develops the ability to pull the body upward while hanging with an alternating grip.
Keeping the body straight, pull upward, allowing the head to move to the left or right side of the bar and touch the left or right shoulder to the bar.
Return to the starting position.
A proper chin-up (a chin-up is not a pull-up) is one of the best upper body exercises because it works so many different muscles at the same time. It’s known as a compound exercise because it works more than one joint — your elbow and shoulder joints have to do an incredible amount of work to pull you up to the bar.
Grab the pull-up bar with the palms facing your torso and a grip closer than the shoulder width.
As you have both arms extended in front of you holding the bar at the chosen grip width, keep your torso as straight as possible while creating a curvature on your lower back and sticking your chest out. This is your starting position.
As you breathe out, pull your torso up until your head is around the level of the pull-up bar. Concentrate on using the biceps muscles in order to perform the movement. Keep the elbows close to your body.
Time to work those shoulders real good. The behind-the-neck pull-ups can be a bit difficult, but the payoff is worth it. The range of motion is a bit different than most other pull-ups, and the middle of your back is gonna feel it here.
Wide-grip is where it’s at; once you’re ready and your arms are fully extended, pull yourself up and let them come behind you rather, rather than in front. Don’t over-extend your neck, and make sure you don’t feel any pain while doing this exercise… unless it’s a good pain.
Grasp the pull-up bar with your hands a bit less than 2 shoulder widths apart. Keep your entire body straight and extend your knees. This way you can’t create momentum with your legs. Also contract your abdominals slightly (don’t hollow your back). Start with your arms almost extended.
Then pull yourself up in front of the bar and exhale. Let the upper back or the neck touch the pull-up bar. Don’t swing your legs or hollow your back.
Move back down slowly and inhale at the same time. The down motion should be slower than the up motion. If you let yourself fall, you can injure your elbows.
Same as the wide grip pull up, just on the money bar.
Take a wide grip on a monkey-up bar, hanging freely with your arms extended. This will be your starting position.
Pull yourself up by flexing the elbows and adducting the glenohumeral joint. Do not swing or use momentum to complete the movement. Attempt to get your chin above your hands.
Pause at the top of the motion before lowering yourself to the starting position.
Hammer grip pull ups are easier on the wrists and shoulders and strongly recruit both the biceps andbrachialis, as opposed to just the biceps (as in chin-ups) or the brachioradialis (as in pull-ups).
Start off standing in front of a assisted pull up machine and grab the hammer grip section of the bar.
Lift your feet up off of the floor and pull up slowly, squeezing tightly on your lats until your shoulders are at level with your head.
Hold this position for a count then return back to the starting position.
Close grip pull ups are an awesome exercise that work later, biceps, shoulders and forearms.
Grab the bar with a shoulder width grip (or slightly narrower), the palms facing away from your face
Pull yourself up by flexing the elbows and extending the arms until the bars is adjacent to the upper part of your chest and try to get your body as high as possible to achieve optimal contraction of the muscles included.
After reaching the peak position, lower yourself in a controlled and slow manner until you return to the original position. Repeat
My personal personal training routine consists of BJJ, Grappling, MMA & Boxing. Everyone who has ever done those sports in a competitive manner, knows you can’t do them everyday. Pull ups are a great way for me to train my body, without “over training” it. I personally try my very best to avoid weight lifting and have never been a fan of it. Therefore I train at least once a week on the pull up bar. After doing some warm up I straight go for the pull up bar. I call my routine “ladder” I start with 1, then 2, 3, 4… all the way up to 10 – from there I go down again 9,8,7… until 1 – it’s an amazing exercise and if you can’t go straight away from 10 then do 3 (1-2-3-2-1) and then go up from there.