6 ways new dads can make family-life easier

6 ways new dads can make family-life easier

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1. Be a tower of strength

After birth, many mothers experience roller coaster rides of emotions. When the hormones go crazy again, it’s important to keep calm. It takes time for the hormones to settle again. Even well-intentioned pep-talk can cross over. Respond to outbreaks calmly and understanding & give your wife some time for herself.

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2. Daddy does it differently!

Fathers treat their children differently than mothers. And that’s just as well! Babies love and need that difference. Listen to your heart and stomach and combine this natural intuition with helpful tips. How to find your own way. Treat yourself to pure daddy days. Only you and your baby. This makes the bond even stronger and you get to know your baby from a completely new side!

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3. VIP diaper session

Just sneak off to work in the morning? That would be too bad! Take your child on the arm and enjoy the time together. Wrap up your baby, chat with him a bit and then put him to bed to mom. So your partner can wake up gently and you can spend valuable time with your baby.

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4. The work has to stay outside

It may be difficult after a hard day at work to take on all the fatherly duties. Try to keep the stress in the office and turn it off on the way home. Walk a short distance and buy dinner on the way so you do not have to cook at home. So you have more time than family.

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5. Men’s evenings with your baby

Do you miss your male friendships? In order not to completely disappear from the scene, grab your baby and walk to a friend. A soothing coffee or sports treacle can not hurt men too. Absolutely think of the vial and the diapers. Fill the milk powder already in the bottle and take the warm water in the Thermo bottle. If the baby is breast-fed, you can easily transport a puff with breast milk in an insulated bag. So it works on the way with the food.

6. Theme changes are good 

After the birth, everything revolves around the new family member. This is a good thing. Nevertheless, make sure that even non-baby talks take place. Your partner is not only the mother of your child, but also a woman. Invite friends without children, then automatically other topics of conversation arise.

Brunch at Greasy Spoon

Brunch at Greasy Spoon

Founded by Brits and located at the heart of the hipster södermalm you find our go to brunch spot GREASY spoon. I come here almost everytime I’m in the mood for some good old brunch. They serve the brunch de la brunch, a hearty brunch and great coffee all day long, and best of all, no reservation needed! Come as you are, take a seat and get ready to leave with some food coma and unbuttoned jeans.

Good Morning!

Good Morning!

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Moms and dads, today do at least one thing for you. Whatever it is that makes you happy, do a little bit of it each day. Your children are watching. Let them see you be happy!

As i said in previous Posts, before i came to Sweden, i never had a cup of coffee in my ENTIRE LIFE! Now it is the “it” in the morning. Coffee first, then parenting. Instant Dad! Just add coffee.

Coffee quotes

As you sip your cup of coffee, take in some of my favorite coffee quotes. May your drink of choice, e.g. coffee, hot or iced tea, Diet Coke, hot chocolate, be stronger than your toddler.

“What do you want?”

“Just coffee. Black – like my soul.”

Cassandra Clare

“As long as there was coffee in the world, how bad could things be?”

Cassandra Clare

“Even bad coffee is better than no coffee at all.”

David Lynch

“I’d rather take coffee than compliments just now.”

Louisa May Alcott

I wish you all a good day full of love, joy and a shot of espresso 🙂

Marco

Moving to Sweden part 2

Moving to Sweden part 2

 

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We landed in Stockholm Arlanda at approximately 4pm in the afternoon. It was already dark and the only thing lighting up the streets were the white packed snow. There were not many people around in comparison to the bustling Munich Airport.

After eating an early dinner at Max Burger place we made our way to our new place we would come to call home. After driving for hours through the Swedish landscape which was filled with endless woods and stunning views we made it.

I had rented a temporary 2 bedroom flat and it was empty apart from a kitchen table left in the corner of the kitchen. Time has passed beyond the regular bedtime for my two sleepy daughters…
… to be continued

6 ways moving to Sweden changed me

6 ways moving to Sweden changed me

1. Fika

Before I arrived in Sweden I never had a cup coffee in my entire life!!! As a newbie to Sweden I quickly learned that fika (coffee breaks) is an important part of Swedish work culture. This is where you get to socialise with your colleagues and catch up on office news in an informal way. It is a great concept. The real challenge of office fika is gauging what is a “lagom” amount of time to spend at this compulsory activity.

2. Fewer the friends, the better

I was used to being surrounded by tens of ‘friends’ in Germany. Hanging out, talking, gossiping & helping if one is in trouble. Moving to Sweden not knowing many people, one learns to pick the ones that you gel with and not just anyone to hang out with. Spending quality time is more important than just being with random people you can’t connect with.

3. Lagom

The Swedish-English dictionary defines lagom as “enough, sufficient, adequate, just right”. Lagom is also widely translated as “in moderation” or “in balance”. Lagom is a Swedish word meaning just the right amount. It’s also widely translated as in moderation, in balance and perfect-simple. It’s an important concept to understand as it is applied to just about every aspect of life in Sweden from dress sense to work performance. Lagom is the stamp of approval; too much or too little usually gets the thumbs down.

4. Patience

I used to get angry and impatient while standing in a queue and the people in front of me take their time to do take out their wallet when I arrived in Sweden, people staring, made me lose my cool. Maybe it has to do with the lifestyle, but since everybody here maintains patience while standing in a queue, crossing the road, at the tax office, almost everywhere that one goes, I am much more tolerant. Seeing all of this taught me a lesson or two and made me much calmer.

5. Enjoy your Summer, it won’t last long!

Coming from a country where you often have four seasons in one day and where snow is rare, proper winters and distinct seasons were both a novelty and a challenge. It is hard to beat the simple thrill of walking across frozen water or tobogganing or skiing down a hill at speed for the first time. Good weather days are few and far between and so is the sun. Since good weather is a blessing, I have learned to value its importance more than ever and relish it while it is around.

6. Compassion
Growing up what now a days can be called conservative, I have always been taught to help the elders, stand up to offer my seat, great them and carry their shopping. Yet we are quick to judge others and even too long hair on a men can be seen as undeacend. Swedes have compassion is built within the society. They treat every human equal and never judge anyone.

Moving to Sweden part 1

Moving to Sweden part 1

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My story

I was born and bread in Bavaria (Germany). As a little boy I use to think of Sweden as this fascinating Viking land, far up north. I didn’t really know anything beyond what I saw depicted in those Astrid Lindgren series such as Pippi Longstocking. Some of my best childhood memories were with my grandparents (Oma & Opa), eating breakfast and watching cartoons together. My grandpa often expressed his deep love for Sweden and the fact that if he could live in any other country beside Germany, it would have been Sweden. That has always stayed with me, but I never thought I would move and live here, in best case scenario visiting Sweden seemed more realistic.

Living like a nomad

After living in England , making a move back to Germany, packing our belogings only to move away to Egypt for the second time in my life. Only to, ones again return back to Germany few months later. We were nomads to say the least, searching for sanctuary, a place where we could call home and settle down for ones. I realize now, whatever I was searching for, I had yet to find in any of those places. Don’t get me wrong, every where we moved to had many great benefits but it always seemed to be outwaited by whatever it lacked.

Sweden

We moved to Sweden on the coldest And darkest month of the year. Life was nothing but easy, it’s hard not to be enthusiastic when you have children who are happy and content with whatever situation they might be in. With that, our journey to settle down in Sweden began.

To be continued…

 

 

 

4 Life changing Benefits Of Intermittent Fasting

4 Life changing Benefits Of Intermittent Fasting

 

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Intermittent fasting has become one of the most controversial concepts of discussion for anyone looking to shed weight. The idea has grown significantly over the past several years.

Everyone from the biggest celebrities, to George St-Pierre, a three-time former UFC Welterweight Champion practice intermittent fasting. To someone who is new to intermittent fasting, however, there may be a lot of information to take in, so it’s important to do ample research.

If you are intrigued by intermittent fasting and want to how it works, you first need to satisfy the question of what intermittent fasting can do for you. What can you get out of it? And what can you expect?

I personally practice intermittent fasting 2-3 times a week. Here are four benefits of intermittent fasting that I have discovered .

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1) Weight loss

One great benefit of intermittent fasting, is the significant weight lost without a calorie-restricted diet. Furthermore, it helps keep the weight off in the long term. Celebrities and fitness experts harp on intermittent fasting’s amazing transformational effects. From Wolverine himself, Mr. Hugh Jackman, to UFC legend Georges St-Pierre, different people from all over the world have detailed how intermittent fasting has changed their lives.

By adhering to a time-restricted eating schedule, intermittent fasting assists practitioners eat less calories without it feeling like you’re on a restrictive diet.

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2) Reduces the risk of developing diabetes

As more and more people in the world are affected by diabetes, one of the best ways to combat this life threatening conditioning is through exercise and a healthy balanced diet.

Intermittent fasting is a great tool to help you fight against diabetes and reverse its effects overall. Recent studies have suggested intermittent fasting may also be able to stop diabetes in its tracks. Studies revealed that intermittent fasting harbors the production of new pancreatic cells which replace old dysfunctional ones, helps reduce insulin resistance which in turn keeps blood sugar levels under control.

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3) Strong and healthy brain

Improved healthy brain function is one of the greatest benefits of intermittent fasting, helping to prevent and manage neurodegenerative diseases like Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s. The act of resisting the temptation to eat during a fasting window is a mental challenge that causes the human brain to take preventative measures against various diseases.

In fact, most practitioners of intermittent fasting have raved about the challenge that it presents. After some time, the body makes personal adjustments to ones eating schedule, hence the constant hunger subsides which is why some switch things up and work with various methods of intermittent fasting.

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4) The body burns fat

Our bodies have been trained to use sugar and carbohydrates as the primary source for energy. The unused calories from sugar and carbohydrates left in the system, gets stored as fat.

Intermittent fasting trains our bodies to use fat as energy and not sugar, as humans were designed to do in the early days of man. The human body was made to withstand long periods of fasting which leads the body expending energy from stored fat.

The fasting window buys our bodies time to deplete our glycogen stores, causing us to burn fat instead of sugar for energy. This state the body enters is known as Ketosis, or more popularly coined today as Keto. Ketones boost energy levels and decrease brain fog.

Winter is coming…

Winter is coming…

Sometimes I wonder if I’m the only person who contemplates the idea of moving to a warm country every year as summer comes to an end. This thought has been a reacuring scenario in the past decade of my life.

As summer comes to an end I feel a part of the warmt in our personality goes with it. The icy cold weather and the darkness bring out the sadness hidden deep in our soul to the surface, making us into zombies in battle to survive the cold and darkness that shackle us to melancholy.

If you live as up north as me (Scandinavia) creating cosy moments in everyday situation will be the strategy or distraction to get you through the darkness winter covers us with. The Danish call this hygge which means creating an atmosphere of wellness, contentment and cosyness in everyday situation.

The Swedes have mastered this, and I have become accustomed to it now, and I wonder how I ever survived any winter without fika or just creating cosy moments.

15 mistakes new dads do

15 mistakes new dads do

As a new dad, you’re worried about so many things it’s hard to even keep track. You haven’t changed a diaper before, or you need to get the nursery done, or you aren’t sure what stuff you need.
Don’t forget that even with all that craziness going on, there’s a little baby at the heart of it all. Someone who is trusting you completely to take care of him or her, who is going to love you so much and you’ll love them back so much it’ll blow your mind.

1. Buying too much stuff
If it’s made of plastic or includes an iPhone dock, it’s probably a waste of money.

2. Comparing your child to other people’s children
All children are monsters sometimes and angels at other times. Your pals’ kids will be angels when your child is kicking off, and vice
versa

3. Staying up too late
Babies know when you’ve done this and deliberately wake up extra early the next morning.

4. Listening to bad advice
Lots of people will offer you parenting tips. Most of those tips will be wrong, including – make that especially – the ones from your own parents. It’s a miracle you made it this far.

5. Forgetting to check your clothes for sick, or worse
You’re travelling. It’s a warm day. You can’t turn back. Yes, that smell is exactly what you think it is.


6. Underestimating babies’ acceleration
Babies move fast and have no sense of danger. You will learn this the hard way.

7. Expecting to become a better person now you’re a parent
Turns out your parents were frightened, winging it and bullshitting their way through everything too. We’re not sure if that’s reassuring or terrifying.

8. Forgetting to apply the brakes on the pram
You’ll only make this mistake once, but your partner will remind you of it for, ooh, the next twenty years.

9. Taking the crying personally
To baby, you’re a fuzzy shape that can fix things. Crying means ‘something’s wrong’, not ‘I hate you’.

10. Expecting to return to normality
You can’t go back to your old life, but once you’re through the early days you won’t want to.

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11.Not asking for help if you need it
People don’t want to interfere, so if you pretend everything’s OK when it isn’t then they won’t force help on you. If you need a hand, ask friends or family. They’ll usually come running.

12. Taking criticism badly
New dads tend to hear ‘hey, you’ve put the babygro on backwards’ as “I hate you, you’re a terrible father.’ Calm down!

13. Not seeing the woods for the trees
Even if it’s really tough right now, it will get better. Better than better. Amazing. Promise.

14. Leaving a nappy on too long
When you hear, feel or smell that nappy filling up, a timebomb starts ticking. Procrastination can and usually does have terrible consequences.

15. Looking for wisdom on the internet
Good luck with that.

 

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Thanks You for your time!

5 Things our Phones are robbing our kids of

5 Things our Phones are robbing our kids of

Hi Friends, 

I wanted to touch on something that I always struggle with when it comes to parenting and that I am now more mindful of. Our beloved phones and the impact it is having on the little ones around us. What are we teaching them through our interaction with our phones? and the amount of time we spend starring into it. Here are some of my thoughts and I hope it can be useful to any parent to find a balance and live a more mindful life.

Our children are closely attuned to our attention. They depend on that attention for their social and emotional development. If someone would film us, you would probably see it non stop – parents standing, necks bent, thumbs frantically tapping away at their iPhones or Samsungs.
The attention we give our phones has a huge impact on our health & social and family relationships.

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Baby’s vision development is very important and even affects their other senses. They light up when you make eye contact and talk directly to them. They are taking in the rhythm and sounds of our voices.

Building Confidence 

Sometimes I find my kids fighting for my attention & they loose against my Smartphone. Positive attention is when we respond to our kids with warmth and interest. It helps them, build a strong value system and positive self-esteem + they feel secure and valued.

Believing in themselves 

When kids know that their parents think they have what it takes to handle life’s problems, they develop confidence in their ability to take on life’s challenges. Put your phone down and talk to them seriously about what they are doing, their skills will grow and their self-confidence will raise.

They want your attention

Responding with enthusiasm to their attempts to master new things will ensure, that the kids keep trying. The “look at me’s” you hear is actually asking for your approval and encouragement. When you do look, take interest, the kids feel it. They try again. They push themselves to the next level!

They miss you

The kids will miss out on having a parent on their side! We all should have the desire to be better parents. The discipline to be there for our kids. Hold ourself accountable for the moments we are not there for them. Be Responsible at all times & Communicate with them. They will thank you in the future – Sometimes you have to invest to get something back – Whats better to invest, then into your own children!?!

 

 

 

 

 

Here are some rules We have implemented in our house:

  • No phone use for the first hour after coming home
  • No phone use in the evening before kids bedtime
  • No phone use during meals
  • No phone use during a family movie (and try not to fall asleep while watching 🙂