15 mistakes new dads do

As a new dad, you’re worried about so many things it’s hard to even keep track. You haven’t changed a diaper before, or you need to get the nursery done, or you aren’t sure what stuff you need.
Don’t forget that even with all that craziness going on, there’s a little baby at the heart of it all. Someone who is trusting you completely to take care of him or her, who is going to love you so much and you’ll love them back so much it’ll blow your mind.

1. Buying too much stuff
If it’s made of plastic or includes an iPhone dock, it’s probably a waste of money.

2. Comparing your child to other people’s children
All children are monsters sometimes and angels at other times. Your pals’ kids will be angels when your child is kicking off, and vice
versa

3. Staying up too late
Babies know when you’ve done this and deliberately wake up extra early the next morning.

4. Listening to bad advice
Lots of people will offer you parenting tips. Most of those tips will be wrong, including – make that especially – the ones from your own parents. It’s a miracle you made it this far.

5. Forgetting to check your clothes for sick, or worse
You’re travelling. It’s a warm day. You can’t turn back. Yes, that smell is exactly what you think it is.


6. Underestimating babies’ acceleration
Babies move fast and have no sense of danger. You will learn this the hard way.

7. Expecting to become a better person now you’re a parent
Turns out your parents were frightened, winging it and bullshitting their way through everything too. We’re not sure if that’s reassuring or terrifying.

8. Forgetting to apply the brakes on the pram
You’ll only make this mistake once, but your partner will remind you of it for, ooh, the next twenty years.

9. Taking the crying personally
To baby, you’re a fuzzy shape that can fix things. Crying means ‘something’s wrong’, not ‘I hate you’.

10. Expecting to return to normality
You can’t go back to your old life, but once you’re through the early days you won’t want to.

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11.Not asking for help if you need it
People don’t want to interfere, so if you pretend everything’s OK when it isn’t then they won’t force help on you. If you need a hand, ask friends or family. They’ll usually come running.

12. Taking criticism badly
New dads tend to hear ‘hey, you’ve put the babygro on backwards’ as “I hate you, you’re a terrible father.’ Calm down!

13. Not seeing the woods for the trees
Even if it’s really tough right now, it will get better. Better than better. Amazing. Promise.

14. Leaving a nappy on too long
When you hear, feel or smell that nappy filling up, a timebomb starts ticking. Procrastination can and usually does have terrible consequences.

15. Looking for wisdom on the internet
Good luck with that.

 

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Thanks You for your time!

5 Things our Phones are robbing our kids of

Hi Friends, 

I wanted to touch on something that I always struggle with when it comes to parenting and that I am now more mindful of. Our beloved phones and the impact it is having on the little ones around us. What are we teaching them through our interaction with our phones? and the amount of time we spend starring into it. Here are some of my thoughts and I hope it can be useful to any parent to find a balance and live a more mindful life.

Our children are closely attuned to our attention. They depend on that attention for their social and emotional development. If someone would film us, you would probably see it non stop – parents standing, necks bent, thumbs frantically tapping away at their iPhones or Samsungs.
The attention we give our phones has a huge impact on our health & social and family relationships.

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Baby’s vision development is very important and even affects their other senses. They light up when you make eye contact and talk directly to them. They are taking in the rhythm and sounds of our voices.

Building Confidence 

Sometimes I find my kids fighting for my attention & they loose against my Smartphone. Positive attention is when we respond to our kids with warmth and interest. It helps them, build a strong value system and positive self-esteem + they feel secure and valued.

Believing in themselves 

When kids know that their parents think they have what it takes to handle life’s problems, they develop confidence in their ability to take on life’s challenges. Put your phone down and talk to them seriously about what they are doing, their skills will grow and their self-confidence will raise.

They want your attention

Responding with enthusiasm to their attempts to master new things will ensure, that the kids keep trying. The “look at me’s” you hear is actually asking for your approval and encouragement. When you do look, take interest, the kids feel it. They try again. They push themselves to the next level!

They miss you

The kids will miss out on having a parent on their side! We all should have the desire to be better parents. The discipline to be there for our kids. Hold ourself accountable for the moments we are not there for them. Be Responsible at all times & Communicate with them. They will thank you in the future – Sometimes you have to invest to get something back – Whats better to invest, then into your own children!?!

 

 

 

 

 

Here are some rules We have implemented in our house:

  • No phone use for the first hour after coming home
  • No phone use in the evening before kids bedtime
  • No phone use during meals
  • No phone use during a family movie (and try not to fall asleep while watching 🙂

6 must haves for new Dad’s

Hejsan & Hello!

Jag skrev ner en lista pÄ saker som jag tycker Àr nödvÀndiga att ha som en nybliven pappa. Jag hoppas att det hjÀlper dig som som just blivit en fförÀlder eller vÀntar barn.
Here’s a list I wrote on essential baby items I couldn’t live without as a father of three. I hope they are useful in navigating this new exciting life that you will embark on.

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1.Bilstol En viktig pryl för din bebis som mÄste vara ordentligt fastsatt i en bilstol. SÀtet mÄste vara anpassat för ditt barn och mÄste fungera i din bil. Inte alla bilstolar hÄller samma kvalité, du kanske vill övervÀga en som har en bas som finns kvar i bilen med ett avtagbart sÀte för barnet som du enkelt kan bÀra runt. Hitta en som funkar för din familj.
1.Car Seat This is an essential item for your baby. Anytime you are in a car, the baby needs to be securely fastened in a car seat. The seat must be appropriately sized for your baby and must work in your car. Not all car seats are created equal. You may want to consider a seat that has a base that is left in the car with a detachable seat for the baby that you can easily carry around. But no baby can safely be without a car seat if you plan to move about in a car. Find one that suits you and your family.

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2.Digital\Video kamera: NÀstan varje far och mÄnga mammor som jag kÀnner vill ha en bra digitalkamera för att spela in de viktiga ögonblicken i deras barns utveckling, eller bara för att skicka bilder av det sötaste barnen nÄgonsin. Att ha en bra digitalkamera med mycket lagringsutrymme eller plats för ett högkapacitets minneskort Àr en bra investering.
2.Digital/Video Camera: Just about every father and many mothers I know wants a good digital camera to record those vital moments in their baby’s development, or just to post pictures of the cutest baby ever. Having a good digital camera with a lot of storage space or room for a high capacity memory card is a great investment.

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3.SkötvĂ€ska: En blöj vĂ€ska/ skötvĂ€ska gör att man enklare fĂ„r ordning pĂ„ allt bebisen behöver nĂ€r man Ă€r ute. Du kommer att bĂ€ra pĂ„ den en hel del. DĂ€rför valde jag en enkel bekvĂ€m men som inte “clashar” med min stil för mycket. Men som ocksĂ„ har utrymme för mina grejer, en bok eller en bĂ€rbar data.
3. Diaper Bag: A good quality diaper bag with all the important contents for the baby is an absolutely essential part of the baby’s kamera stuff. It will be the one item you will be seen carrying😊 therefore I chose a simple comfortable one that I can also fit my books and a laptop in.

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4.Burp cloth – bib: En annan stor överraskning som en ny pappa var hur mycket vĂ„r baby spydde upp. Jag fick bytta t-shirt konstant. En hel del leverans av burpduk kommer behövas under dom första mĂ„naderna, som du enkelt hittar hos flesta babyförsĂ€ljning affĂ€rer. Ingen idea att klĂ€ upp sig utan en till hands, det lovar jag 😉
4.Burp Cloths: Another big surprise I had as a new father was how much our baby spit up. A ready supply of burp cloth is important for dads and babies which you can purchase in most baby supply stores. Don’t even bother getting dressed up, without one at hand.

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5.Barnvagn: Det Àr övervÀldigande som en nybliven pappa och det Àr lÀtt att kÀnna sig fast hemma med den nya bebisen. Det kommer inte som nÄgon överraskning att din rörlighet begrÀnsas. En barnvagn med kvalitet, och med justerande handtag sÄ du slipper böja över hela tiden, Àr ju ett mÄste. SÀrskilt om du Àr lÄng. Det var inte enkelt för mig att hitta en anpassad för lÀngre mÀnniskor, men den jag har fÄr duga.
5.Stroller: It is overwhelming experince to become father for the first time and its easy for a new dad to feel trapped at home with the new bor. It comes as no surprise that your mobility is effected . A good quality stroller, with handles long enough that you can walk without bending over all the time, is an important item. Particularly if you are on the tall side of the spectrum. And getting one that will serve you and your baby as she or he grows makes the relatively large investment a little easier to digest.

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6.Rash-creme – Aprikosolja: Som tre barns pappa sĂ„ jag har jag sĂ€kerligen prövat mĂ„nga hudutslag krĂ€mer, salvor m.m. MĂ„nga av dem var inte helt dĂ„liga och gav en viss effekt mot utslaget och en aning förbĂ€ttring. Men nĂ€stan alla dem jag anvĂ€nde innehöll mĂ„nga ingredienser som irriterar huden och som inte Ă€r bra pĂ„ lĂ„ng sikt. Jag fick av min kusin Desse Apricotolja för nĂ„gra Ă„r sedan och det har varit en game-changer sedan dess. Denna produkt Ă€r inte bara bra mot irriterad och rodnad utan alla typer av skĂ€rningar. Det Ă€r en helande salva som kan anvĂ€ndas för att hydrera huden, motverka torra lĂ€ppar. Varje gĂ„ng jag har anvĂ€nt, sĂ„ har det alltid gett omedelbar resultat och förbĂ€ttring. Och det bĂ€sta av allt Ă€r att det Ă€r framkallat pĂ„ aprikosolja och det Ă€r helt naturligt.

6.Rash cream – Apricot oil: As a father of three children, it’s safe to say I have tried many rash lotion/creams/ balm. Many of them were not bad as far as soothing the rash and improving it. But almost all of the ones I used where made with a lot of ingredients that are not safe or good in the long run. I was given by my cousing Desse Apricot oil a couple of years ago and it has been a game changers ever since. This product is not only great for diaper rash but all types of cuts. It is a healing balm that can be used to hydrate the skin, cracked lips. Every time I have used when one of my kids had a rash, it gave instant results of improvement. And the best of all it’s made of apricot oil and its all natural.

Garden boat lunch in Stockholm

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This is the deck part of the restaurant where you can dive off and swim

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MĂ€larpaviljongen located in kungsholmen

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The entrance of the restaurant looks like a garden

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Todays lunch

Wallenbergare med potatispuré, skirat smör, gröna Àrtor och rÄrörda lingon

Wallenbergare (meat)  with mashed potatoes, a dash of butter served with cranberry

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Caesar salad & rÀkor (prawns)

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Enjoying my alcohol free beer at the pier

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Would love to sit here with a drink , but not an option when you’re with 3 kids 🙂 unless you want  to suffer a heart attack  in the process 🙂

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Perfect pier for some (fika)

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Welcome back friends,

I  came a across this lovely place in Kungsholmen a couple of days ago when we went there for a swim. I decided to come back here someday, that day has come haha.  I don’t really know how to describe it, its a floating garden that serves food and drinks 🙂  they have a deck where you you can dive off and swim, come back and continue dining haha, sounds confusing, but it’s not,  it was simply built convenient and magical.  It’s called MĂ€larpaviljongen and it’s located in kungsholmen. If you are planning to visit, the easiest route would be getting off the train at Fridhemsplan in the blue line.. I ordered Wallenbergare (meat) with mashed potatoes and cranberry sauce and I got their caesar salad, which I assumed came with grilled chicken, I found out it can be served with anything. The caesar salad came with prawns, it was fresh and simple, I liked it. I took the kids for a swim afterwards to cool down from the heat and got wet in the process 🙂 We ended the day with some (fika) Alcohol free beer for me and some ice cream for my kids at the pier. City hall (stadshuset) is located here, it has a beautiful garden to sit and relax in and a prefect place to take some pictures with amazing view over Stockholm. There is so much to discovered here, the pier is stacked with so many restaurants and ice creams places to choose from, you can catch a boat from here to other islands around Stockholm, start your journey, discover Stockholm your way and have fun doing it.

Enjoy your view

until next time.

Sun and fun in Kungsholmen

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We where too excited about the bread to remember to take picture of our dinner

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Elias started off with a nice blue t-shirt

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The proof is on the shirt 🙂

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Welcome back Friends,

We spent the day in Kungsholmen walking along (smedsuddsbadet) at the beachside. It was 28 degrees, sunny and lovely and we, (me and my three kids) went for a dip in the water, for some well needed cooling down.  We had an early dinner at 7 pm at a cosy french seaside restaurant called Boulebar, they had amazing food, and even my kids didn’t need much bribing or any convincing to finish their plates. Check it out if you enjoy french cuisine or not hahaha, I think you will find something to enjoy, if even just a drink and a nice view 🙂 Our day ended with a lovely walk along the pier, and what better way to enjoy the sunset than with an ice cream.

I hope you had lovely day 🙂