6 ways new dads can make family-life easier

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1. Be a tower of strength

After birth, many mothers experience roller coaster rides of emotions. When the hormones go crazy again, it’s important to keep calm. It takes time for the hormones to settle again. Even well-intentioned pep-talk can cross over. Respond to outbreaks calmly and understanding & give your wife some time for herself.

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2. Daddy does it differently!

Fathers treat their children differently than mothers. And that’s just as well! Babies love and need that difference. Listen to your heart and stomach and combine this natural intuition with helpful tips. How to find your own way. Treat yourself to pure daddy days. Only you and your baby. This makes the bond even stronger and you get to know your baby from a completely new side!

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3. VIP diaper session

Just sneak off to work in the morning? That would be too bad! Take your child on the arm and enjoy the time together. Wrap up your baby, chat with him a bit and then put him to bed to mom. So your partner can wake up gently and you can spend valuable time with your baby.

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4. The work has to stay outside

It may be difficult after a hard day at work to take on all the fatherly duties. Try to keep the stress in the office and turn it off on the way home. Walk a short distance and buy dinner on the way so you do not have to cook at home. So you have more time than family.

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5. Men’s evenings with your baby

Do you miss your male friendships? In order not to completely disappear from the scene, grab your baby and walk to a friend. A soothing coffee or sports treacle can not hurt men too. Absolutely think of the vial and the diapers. Fill the milk powder already in the bottle and take the warm water in the Thermo bottle. If the baby is breast-fed, you can easily transport a puff with breast milk in an insulated bag. So it works on the way with the food.

6. Theme changes are good 

After the birth, everything revolves around the new family member. This is a good thing. Nevertheless, make sure that even non-baby talks take place. Your partner is not only the mother of your child, but also a woman. Invite friends without children, then automatically other topics of conversation arise.

Moving to Sweden part 2

 

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We landed in Stockholm Arlanda at approximately 4pm in the afternoon. It was already dark and the only thing lighting up the streets were the white packed snow. There were not many people around in comparison to the bustling Munich Airport.

After eating an early dinner at Max Burger place we made our way to our new place we would come to call home. After driving for hours through the Swedish landscape which was filled with endless woods and stunning views we made it.

I had rented a temporary 2 bedroom flat and it was empty apart from a kitchen table left in the corner of the kitchen. Time has passed beyond the regular bedtime for my two sleepy daughters…
… to be continued

Winter is coming…

 

Sometimes I wonder if I’m the only person who contemplates the idea of moving to a warm country every year as summer comes to an end. This thought has been a reacuring scenario in the past decade of my life.

As summer comes to an end I feel a part of the warmt in our personality goes with it. The icy cold weather and the darkness bring out the sadness hidden deep in our soul to the surface, making us into zombies in battle to survive the cold and darkness that shackle us to melancholy.

If you live as up north as me (Scandinavia) creating cosy moments in everyday situation will be the strategy or distraction to get you through the darkness winter covers us with. The Danish call this hygge which means creating an atmosphere of wellness, contentment and cosyness in everyday situation.

The Swedes have mastered this, and I have become accustomed to it now, and I wonder how I ever survived any winter without fika or just creating cosy moments.

15 mistakes new dads do

As a new dad, you’re worried about so many things it’s hard to even keep track. You haven’t changed a diaper before, or you need to get the nursery done, or you aren’t sure what stuff you need.
Don’t forget that even with all that craziness going on, there’s a little baby at the heart of it all. Someone who is trusting you completely to take care of him or her, who is going to love you so much and you’ll love them back so much it’ll blow your mind.

1. Buying too much stuff
If it’s made of plastic or includes an iPhone dock, it’s probably a waste of money.

2. Comparing your child to other people’s children
All children are monsters sometimes and angels at other times. Your pals’ kids will be angels when your child is kicking off, and vice
versa

3. Staying up too late
Babies know when you’ve done this and deliberately wake up extra early the next morning.

4. Listening to bad advice
Lots of people will offer you parenting tips. Most of those tips will be wrong, including – make that especially – the ones from your own parents. It’s a miracle you made it this far.

5. Forgetting to check your clothes for sick, or worse
You’re travelling. It’s a warm day. You can’t turn back. Yes, that smell is exactly what you think it is.


6. Underestimating babies’ acceleration
Babies move fast and have no sense of danger. You will learn this the hard way.

7. Expecting to become a better person now you’re a parent
Turns out your parents were frightened, winging it and bullshitting their way through everything too. We’re not sure if that’s reassuring or terrifying.

8. Forgetting to apply the brakes on the pram
You’ll only make this mistake once, but your partner will remind you of it for, ooh, the next twenty years.

9. Taking the crying personally
To baby, you’re a fuzzy shape that can fix things. Crying means ‘something’s wrong’, not ‘I hate you’.

10. Expecting to return to normality
You can’t go back to your old life, but once you’re through the early days you won’t want to.

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11.Not asking for help if you need it
People don’t want to interfere, so if you pretend everything’s OK when it isn’t then they won’t force help on you. If you need a hand, ask friends or family. They’ll usually come running.

12. Taking criticism badly
New dads tend to hear ‘hey, you’ve put the babygro on backwards’ as “I hate you, you’re a terrible father.’ Calm down!

13. Not seeing the woods for the trees
Even if it’s really tough right now, it will get better. Better than better. Amazing. Promise.

14. Leaving a nappy on too long
When you hear, feel or smell that nappy filling up, a timebomb starts ticking. Procrastination can and usually does have terrible consequences.

15. Looking for wisdom on the internet
Good luck with that.

 

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Thanks You for your time!

5 Things our Phones are robbing our kids of

Hi Friends, 

I wanted to touch on something that I always struggle with when it comes to parenting and that I am now more mindful of. Our beloved phones and the impact it is having on the little ones around us. What are we teaching them through our interaction with our phones? and the amount of time we spend starring into it. Here are some of my thoughts and I hope it can be useful to any parent to find a balance and live a more mindful life.

Our children are closely attuned to our attention. They depend on that attention for their social and emotional development. If someone would film us, you would probably see it non stop – parents standing, necks bent, thumbs frantically tapping away at their iPhones or Samsungs.
The attention we give our phones has a huge impact on our health & social and family relationships.

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Baby’s vision development is very important and even affects their other senses. They light up when you make eye contact and talk directly to them. They are taking in the rhythm and sounds of our voices.

Building Confidence 

Sometimes I find my kids fighting for my attention & they loose against my Smartphone. Positive attention is when we respond to our kids with warmth and interest. It helps them, build a strong value system and positive self-esteem + they feel secure and valued.

Believing in themselves 

When kids know that their parents think they have what it takes to handle life’s problems, they develop confidence in their ability to take on life’s challenges. Put your phone down and talk to them seriously about what they are doing, their skills will grow and their self-confidence will raise.

They want your attention

Responding with enthusiasm to their attempts to master new things will ensure, that the kids keep trying. The “look at me’s” you hear is actually asking for your approval and encouragement. When you do look, take interest, the kids feel it. They try again. They push themselves to the next level!

They miss you

The kids will miss out on having a parent on their side! We all should have the desire to be better parents. The discipline to be there for our kids. Hold ourself accountable for the moments we are not there for them. Be Responsible at all times & Communicate with them. They will thank you in the future – Sometimes you have to invest to get something back – Whats better to invest, then into your own children!?!

 

 

 

 

 

Here are some rules We have implemented in our house:

  • No phone use for the first hour after coming home
  • No phone use in the evening before kids bedtime
  • No phone use during meals
  • No phone use during a family movie (and try not to fall asleep while watching 🙂

6 must haves for new Dad’s

Hejsan & Hello!

Jag skrev ner en lista på saker som jag tycker är nödvändiga att ha som en nybliven pappa. Jag hoppas att det hjälper dig som som just blivit en fförälder eller väntar barn.
Here’s a list I wrote on essential baby items I couldn’t live without as a father of three. I hope they are useful in navigating this new exciting life that you will embark on.

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1.Bilstol En viktig pryl för din bebis som måste vara ordentligt fastsatt i en bilstol. Sätet måste vara anpassat för ditt barn och måste fungera i din bil. Inte alla bilstolar håller samma kvalité, du kanske vill överväga en som har en bas som finns kvar i bilen med ett avtagbart säte för barnet som du enkelt kan bära runt. Hitta en som funkar för din familj.
1.Car Seat This is an essential item for your baby. Anytime you are in a car, the baby needs to be securely fastened in a car seat. The seat must be appropriately sized for your baby and must work in your car. Not all car seats are created equal. You may want to consider a seat that has a base that is left in the car with a detachable seat for the baby that you can easily carry around. But no baby can safely be without a car seat if you plan to move about in a car. Find one that suits you and your family.

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2.Digital\Video kamera: Nästan varje far och många mammor som jag känner vill ha en bra digitalkamera för att spela in de viktiga ögonblicken i deras barns utveckling, eller bara för att skicka bilder av det sötaste barnen någonsin. Att ha en bra digitalkamera med mycket lagringsutrymme eller plats för ett högkapacitets minneskort är en bra investering.
2.Digital/Video Camera: Just about every father and many mothers I know wants a good digital camera to record those vital moments in their baby’s development, or just to post pictures of the cutest baby ever. Having a good digital camera with a lot of storage space or room for a high capacity memory card is a great investment.

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3.Skötväska: En blöj väska/ skötväska gör att man enklare får ordning på allt bebisen behöver när man är ute. Du kommer att bära på den en hel del. Därför valde jag en enkel bekväm men som inte “clashar” med min stil för mycket. Men som också har utrymme för mina grejer, en bok eller en bärbar data.
3. Diaper Bag: A good quality diaper bag with all the important contents for the baby is an absolutely essential part of the baby’s kamera stuff. It will be the one item you will be seen carrying😊 therefore I chose a simple comfortable one that I can also fit my books and a laptop in.

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4.Burp cloth – bib: En annan stor överraskning som en ny pappa var hur mycket vår baby spydde upp. Jag fick bytta t-shirt konstant. En hel del leverans av burpduk kommer behövas under dom första månaderna, som du enkelt hittar hos flesta babyförsäljning affärer. Ingen idea att klä upp sig utan en till hands, det lovar jag 😉
4.Burp Cloths: Another big surprise I had as a new father was how much our baby spit up. A ready supply of burp cloth is important for dads and babies which you can purchase in most baby supply stores. Don’t even bother getting dressed up, without one at hand.

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5.Barnvagn: Det är överväldigande som en nybliven pappa och det är lätt att känna sig fast hemma med den nya bebisen. Det kommer inte som någon överraskning att din rörlighet begränsas. En barnvagn med kvalitet, och med justerande handtag så du slipper böja över hela tiden, är ju ett måste. Särskilt om du är lång. Det var inte enkelt för mig att hitta en anpassad för längre människor, men den jag har får duga.
5.Stroller: It is overwhelming experince to become father for the first time and its easy for a new dad to feel trapped at home with the new bor. It comes as no surprise that your mobility is effected . A good quality stroller, with handles long enough that you can walk without bending over all the time, is an important item. Particularly if you are on the tall side of the spectrum. And getting one that will serve you and your baby as she or he grows makes the relatively large investment a little easier to digest.

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6.Rash-creme – Aprikosolja: Som tre barns pappa så jag har jag säkerligen prövat många hudutslag krämer, salvor m.m. Många av dem var inte helt dåliga och gav en viss effekt mot utslaget och en aning förbättring. Men nästan alla dem jag använde innehöll många ingredienser som irriterar huden och som inte är bra på lång sikt. Jag fick av min kusin Desse Apricotolja för några år sedan och det har varit en game-changer sedan dess. Denna produkt är inte bara bra mot irriterad och rodnad utan alla typer av skärningar. Det är en helande salva som kan användas för att hydrera huden, motverka torra läppar. Varje gång jag har använt, så har det alltid gett omedelbar resultat och förbättring. Och det bästa av allt är att det är framkallat på aprikosolja och det är helt naturligt.

6.Rash cream – Apricot oil: As a father of three children, it’s safe to say I have tried many rash lotion/creams/ balm. Many of them were not bad as far as soothing the rash and improving it. But almost all of the ones I used where made with a lot of ingredients that are not safe or good in the long run. I was given by my cousing Desse Apricot oil a couple of years ago and it has been a game changers ever since. This product is not only great for diaper rash but all types of cuts. It is a healing balm that can be used to hydrate the skin, cracked lips. Every time I have used when one of my kids had a rash, it gave instant results of improvement. And the best of all it’s made of apricot oil and its all natural.

Gröna Lund – Family & Fun

 

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Hejsan vänner

Den här veckan så har min familj varit på besök hos oss. Vi har alla sätt fram emot det och nu är dom äntligen här. Den här gången kom min mamma (oma) och mina två systrar. Vi åkte till gröna lund via båt från slussen till Djurgården. Vi hade en underbar dag, vi omgås mer nu än vad vi gjorde när jag bodde i Tyskland. Jag tror att det beror på att man tar allt för givet när man bor så nära varandra. Nu när vi bor i olika länder så uppskattar vi verkligen den tid vi har tillsammans mer. Ens familj, är ett av dom grejerna vi tar mest förgivet här i livet , vi uppskattar varandra alldeles för lite. Det finns ett citat som verkligen resonera hos mig och det lyder: “Dead people receive more flowers than the living, because regret is stronger than gratitude”. Asså fattar ni hur sjukt det är, helt galet att vi visar så lite uppskattning av nära och kära. Hur grymt skulle det vara, om man dök upp på en måndag med blommor till ens mamma, pappa eller syskon, utan någon anledning förutom att visa uppskattning och kärlek. Mer kärlek och uppskattning sa någon aldrig nej till 🙂

 

Hi friends

This week, my family came to visit us. We all have been looking forward and now they are finally here. This time my mom (grandmother) and my two sisters came. We went to Gröna lund and got on boat from slussen to Djurgården. We had a wonderful day, we spend more quality time now then when I lived in Germany. I think it’s because you take everything for granted when you live so close to each other. Now that we live in different countries, we really appreciate the time we have together . One’s family is one of the things we take for granted, as a result, we end up appreciating each other way too little. There is a quote that really resonated with me. It states: “Dead people receive more flowers than the living, because regret is stronger than gratitude”. Do you realize how insane that is? It is sad that we show little appreciation to our loved ones. How amazing would it be if one showed up on a Monday with flowers to one’s mother, dad or sibling just to show their appreciation and love for them. More love and appreciation, because no one ever said no to that 🙂